Have you ever been told something that you knew without a shadow of a doubt wasn’t true? I write this with my heart pounding and nearly shaking because I was told something that isn’t true, not the truth, not genuine, actual or real. That’s actually the definition of TRUE according to Webster (side note, do people even use the word Webster anymore or does that date me, should I have said according to Google);
TRUE : Existing in fact and not merely as a possibility, genuine, actual, real.
I just happen to immediately after hearing this untruth, see Gary V on LinkedIn give his Dad props for the most important advice he ever received…. Your Word is your Bond.
I live by that. If you are not a person of your word, who are you and why wouldn’t you want to be? At the end of our tomorrows, we may be a bit of our hard work but ultimately, we are our character and at the root of that character is the truth that comes out of our mouth or our fingers, if we’ve typed it. Our character, our truth is passed on to our children and family and friends. It is who you are not just in your personal life but also in your work life, you can not separate the two and if you think you can, you have a problem with being true.
It just so happens that TRUE is my 2019 word of the year, because I’m working not on being more truthful but being TRULY ME and not accepting half of me because others couldn’t handle all of me.
I teach three year old’s on Sunday morning at our church and teach is a loose word, I do a lot of corralling and laughing because they are hilarious but our verse this month happens to be,
“Whoever can be trusted with very little, can also be trusted with much.” ~ Luke 16:10 .
Listen, you don’t have to be a bible believing human being to know that is a universal truth. When you are a person who is truthful and trustworthy with the basics, you are then given more to be trusted with. On the flip side of that, if you are someone who is not truthful and trustworthy in the little things, it’s going to be real tough to be trusted in the big stuff.
So what do you do when someone is not being truthful? Do you call them out? Do you ignore it? Do you passive aggressively figure out a way to point it out to them? Maybe, Maybe, and No. Sometimes it’s worth calling someone out, sometimes it’s not and hey, passive aggressive is never a solution!
In this case, for me, it’s one more of a very long line of half truths, broken promises and non-truths and has forever changed my relationship with this person. It has solidified what I already knew and there will be a day when I can communicate in love, how this person might have handled our relationship differently. Not because it will make me feel better or somehow it will change the past, but my hope is that it will change how he/she treats people in the future. Because I will be truthful in how I exit the relationship and we all owe that to ourselves, to walk away in our truth without regrets.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS be a person of your word, never leave any doubt that someone would question if what you are telling them is the truth…they will already know you are a person of your word. #BeTrue #BeHonest #BeYou